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So, this is what happens when I attempt to make time for dating, which happens to also be on my 30 before 30 list. As you recall, my previous crazy boy post discussed my latest dating attempt fiasco. Seems we have a trend going on here. Every few days, the boy makes another attempt to contact me via various forms of communication. And yes, I’m calling him a boy. A 36 year old man would surely not do this. I’m starting to think it’s like one of those movies, what’s the name of it, where the kid is trapped in the grown man’s body? I think Bruce Willis is in it? That movie. That’s what must be happening right now.
Yesterday I came home to find an email from this same boy. Just seeing his name in my inbox made me shudder. Does he not get the hint? I haven’t contacted him in a week and a half. At all. In any way, shape, or form. I also mentioned I was taking a long business trip soon. Knowing this douche he probably thought I was joking.
I’m typically one to go after what I want, but even I know when it’s not reciprocated. Am I alone in this? Is it hard to figure that out? Honestly fellow readers, I am trying to think of logical explanations for this and thoughts of how long this will last before he gives up. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this? The only other time this has happened to me I had dated the guy for 6 months beforehand, which gave it a little more merit than having had NO DATES!!
I didn’t read the email. I deleted it without opening it. I didn’t want to know what was inside. I think a fun game might be to imagine what it might have said. Thoughts? Feel free to comment.
Seriously. It’s times like these that I realize why some people are still single. Then it makes me wonder why I am because I don’t have these horridly bad habits.
A couple weeks ago I agreed to start talking to a guy that one of my friends knew. He’s a pretty nice guy and we exchanged quite a few emails the past few weeks that were very conversational. It was very easy to keep the exchange going and not die down or cry out of boredom. I figured it couldn’t hurt to meet up.
Plans soon became cloudy as my free day was the Packers/Vikings game. I invited him to come, but he mentioned that it started earlier and he had some appointments so he couldn’t meet up. We decided that I wouldn’t want to be interrupted during the game so we’d possibly meet up after depending on how I was doing.
Now fast forward a couple days to the day of the game.
Morning comes and I have an email where he’s asking me to breakfast the next day. I’m at work with no time to respond. Afternoon hits and I get a 3 minute voicemail immediately followed by a text message asking me if I got said email and voicemail. Really? Yeah, this was starting to creep me out.
I head to the game, and have my disaster fiasco. I get a text from him about 20 minutes into the game that says he will stop by where I’m at around 7:30.
No. This was not part of the plan. The plan was to wait until the game was over and go from there. So I text him and tell him not to bother because the bar I was headed to didn’t have the game on so I was elsewhere.
I then get a phone call DURING THE GAME that I do not pick up. Immediately after I get a text that says to let him know where I’m at and he’ll swing by. I let him know that I just wanted to veg and hang with friends and/or myself and I get another one pleading to go out. I ignore it.
The next day I get an email and a text message that I don’t respond to.
As of today it’s been three whole days and I thought this was over, until I got a text message today.
Seriously boy. You interrupted my Packer game and you were a little too intense. This is done.
While this might not be a new philosophy, it’s one that has come out and punched me in the face lately.
It’s pretty easy to figure out and shouldn’t take that much explaining.
While it would be nice to be dating, it’s not the first thing I think of every day when I wake up. However, I do get reminders from my friends and acquaintances that I am not dating as well as teasing remarks when I am headed out with one of my good guy friends.
Additionally, I haven’t exactly had the best dating record. At all. Not really sure I trust myself to even find anyone at this point.
It’s not that I don’t want to. It’s just that it’s not on the top of my list.
So, instead of constantly asking me why I’m not dating anyone and/or assuming all my guy friends are guys I am dating, I am giving everyone a challenge:
Set me up.
My friends should know me as well, if not better, than myself.
Ready. Set. Go.
The end.
On my way home from work today, I stopped into the gym to claim my company paid for gym membership (yay). It was a very good experience, and the two gyms I have checked out so far (one close to the office and one near my house) they look very clean and professional and have lots of equipment and offer great classes as well.
As I am signing up, I hear a familiar question:
“And will your spouse be signing up as well?”
My response?
“Nope. I got none of those.”
For some reason, ever since moving here (or maybe it’s just noticed because of the insane amount of things I have to fill out) I have repeatedly been asked for my spouse’s information when filling out forms and signing up for things. It didn’t quite hit me until today. I have now come down to a couple conclusions. Either (a) I look like I am or should be married or (b) everyone in Phoenix is taken so it is assumed that I am no exception.
I don’t know if this is a good or a bad thing. It could also be neither good nor bad, and maybe it’s just a standard question you learn to ask when you live in this area? Maybe it’s a western thing. Who knows. But realizing it has happened every single time has definitely made me curious in finding out.
I have determined that I need to start scheduling visits from friends and family. This is probably the best form of motivation for me to get my house in tip top shape.
So, if anyone would like to visit, realistically I can start accepting visitors the week before Thanksgiving. Let me know, and get your dates in now. I have a nice warm place and am expecting (and hoping) it becomes the new vacation spot for my crew
Need some enticing?
Tonight was a great and interesting evening. Eric, Bob, and I went to the 2nd Ignite Phoenix and had a blast. I was a little unsure of it at first, but I can definitely see its potential and it was a great discussion piece for the remainder of the night.
If you haven’t heard of Ignite, it’s a movement that is meant to create community, networking and discussion. Each presenter has 5 minutes and 20 slides (about 20 seconds per slide) to make their presentation on pretty much any topic they want. They are all submitted in advance. Tonight we had 16 presenters on topics ranging from public transportation to art therapy and scooters and magic. There was even one on how to prevent a Zombie attack.
One of them was also on a site meant to give people good suggestions for dates other than the generic Applebees, Olive Garden, and Chilis. Apparently I missed all the signals of the Date Designer presenter pouring his love out to me LOL.
Afterwards, we met up with Jessy at this great burger place that also had a kick ass drink menu. I chose a black velveteen. We talked about the presentations we had seen that night and this somehow ended up causing idea generation on a presentation how how to date Tonia and how not to date Tonia, along wiht even further conversation on how much the date presenter was in love with me.
I’m sure this won’t be the last we will hear of “Date a Designer.”…
On that note, it is almost midnight and time to head to bed and get some shut eye.
Goodnight all of you (especially the East Coasters).
